An Open Letter to the Lovely Ladies of NAS

I’m a fan of all things that have to do with the “Church.”  When I say “Church” I mean the community of believers that make up the body of Christ.  For over a year now, two wonderful Catholic women named Morgan and Jen have been hosting what they call the “Not Alone Series” or NAS.   It’s essentially an online ministry targeted towards women who long for a vocation but are not yet there.   The message is a positive one: yes, you are single and YES you ARE a whole person.

Here are Morgan and Jen’s Descriptions:

Here is my “Letter” every Young woman involved in “NAS”:

Dear sisters in Christ,

As I read the fifth recap post of the #NASavannah trip, the following thought occurred to me: “there are more written accounts of this event than there are written accounts of Jesus’ life…this MUST have actually happened. ”  Allow me to introduce myself, my name is Chris, I’m a fan of the Not Alone Series and yes, I’m a man.  You may wonder why I read the per-vocation musings of young adult women.  Even though I have a different gender role than you, ladies, there is a LOT I can relate to.

I’ve been single my whole life, and the older I get, the more I have to endure the questions about my “status.”  It starts with adults who are my parent’s age and then it goes on from there.  These people mean well, but after awhile, there are certain things that tire me out.  If I’m seen in public with a woman my age, there will always be those hopeful inquiries about her that will get back to me.  I’ll get suggestions to try online dating.  Others will prompt me to “go out on the town.”  Still others will slip me a phone number or an e-mail address of some girl who lives miles and miles away.

I’m not saying that I’m offended by these gestures, in fact, I’m glad that people recognize my desire to love and be loved.  What wears on me is when people go into “desperation mode” for me.  Sometimes its as if people think I’ll finally be complete if I find a wife.  Therein lies the problem: I DO NOT see myself as an incomplete person.  Sure, it’s true that I am far from perfect.  It’s also true that my “bride” be that a woman, or the church will most likely be my path to holiness.  Does that mean that the time in between now and the moment I make my vows is worthless?  NO!  I believe there is a purpose for everything and this season of singleness has a profound propose….

If you are single now is the time to use your unparalleled freedom to serve others, to experience life, or to travel on down to GA and bunk up with fellow minded “faith-people.”

Recently, I was talking to a female friend of mine.  To be more specific, a former love interest of mine.  I suffered my worst heart break with her, but now time has healed my wounds.  I asked her why women get so tied up in the desire to be married yesterday.  She told me that it comes from the built in female desire to recieve another person to nurture them.  Sometimes I feel that a single women will get so fixated on trying to find that “mister right” to take care of that she’ll forget to use her gifts to nurture those that are already her in her life.

I do not believe that this is the case with you, ladies.  Whether you declare “You Are Not Alone” by writing posts, or by just reading them and praying, you are doing what God designed you for: to see to the needs of others.  As I read the accounts of the women who got together in Savannah, it was clear to me that they were each taking care or each other, it was symbolic of the Church community that God wants us all to have.

Do not forget that you are all beautiful.  You have worth.  You deserve dignity.  All these things belong to you not because of factors from this world, but from the mere fact that you were created in the image and likeness of God.  This will be true of you if you are married or if you are single.  Is anyone ever truly single?  We are all connected, we make up the body of Christ.  We constitute this holy communion with God.

If we know this to be true, do i really need to say it?

I will anyway:


God Bless!

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